Oh, the G-spot. There has been so, so much controversy around this little bit of the female anatomy. Does it exist? Does it not? Does everyone have one? Does it cause female ejaculation? OK, female ejaculation is another post entirely and I won't get into that here, but it does happen and it is normal. But today we will talk about the G-spot.
The G-spot has been discovered and lost over the centuries. Around 1950, Ernst Gräfenburg wrote about it. Then, it was forgotten again. In the 1970's, Beverly Whipple and John Perry, both sex researchers, rediscovered it. Although it has been known and forgotten several times, they named it the "Gräfenburg spot," or, the G-spot, after the latest discoverer.
So, what exactly is the G-Spot? Short answer: it's part of the internal structure of the clitoris and urethral sponge. It's often called the "female prostate." It's located just a few inches inside the vagina on the front wall (belly side). It may feel sort of rough compared with the rest of the vagina and often responds well to firm pressure and rubbing as opposed to gentle stimulation. But of course, everyone is different.
Knowing you've found your G-spot is not always very cut-and-dry. Most commonly you'll know that you've found it when you feel like you have the urge to pee when you know your bladder is empty. This is normal and really just means that you've found it! With continued stimulation, you may or may not orgasm, and may or may not ejaculate. Don't worry, though, because you won't actually urinate and the female ejaculate is not urine. But whether you do or do not orgasm from it or do or do not ejaculate, it's perfectly normal.
Troubleshooting when you can't find it can be a little difficult and frustrating, and scientists go back and forth as to whether or not all women have one (a step up from a few years ago where some sex experts thought the G-spot was a myth). Something I've learned in my hunt is that relaxation is important. If you make it a chore, you're arousal will go backward and it will be even harder to find. Something else I noticed about myself is if I'm not really aroused, it's like my spot doesn't exist. Except, I know it exists, because I've found it! But without the proper amount of foreplay and stimulation, it feels like it vanishes.
Ready to try to find your G-spot? Need some help finding it? Next I'll be talking about this: The Flowered Friend g-spot stimulator.
Sources: I Love Female Orgasm by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller